Why everyone should read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Every person’s primary love language is one of the above five (In exceptional cases it can even be two).
If you find it difficult to figure out your primary love language just by introspection take the 5 love language profile.
It tells you your primary love language and the other four in order of your preference. If you feel there are two languages that speak equally to you, you may have two primary love languages and that gives your partner more than just one primary way to express their love for you.
How to use what you just discovered
Once you know the primary love language of your spouse you need to learn to communicate your love effectively to them in their language.
You can also explain your primary love language to your partner and request them to incorporate that language as much as possible.
That’s how you create a win-win situation!
This does not mean that you cannot use the other four languages for your partner. That would be silly (everyone loves gifts!). Love your partner in combination of all five. But being aware of their primary love language empowers you with the knowledge of what they value the most. If you don’t use their primary love language no matter how sincere your intentions your loving gestures will not have as profound an impact as you would expect them to have.
I had come across the 5 love languages quiz on the internet a long time ago. I had taken the test, agreed with the results it generated, and then forgot about it just like every other personality quiz we take online. But discovering this book in quarantine made me retake the test, and I am sure this time the realizations I had about my primary love language will stick with me for a lifetime.
The insights you will have from this book will not just help you to understand yourself better but it also has tremendous power to affect all your relationships positively especially your romantic relationships. If you are single, worry not, take the lessons from the book now and reap the benefits later.
Go and grab a copy of this book and lets us know if it had an impact.